Diary of a Thriving Mum

A perspective on how God truly sees women

It’s funny…
when people talk about Jesus; His power, His authority, His sacrifice, they rarely talk about how gentle He was with women.

That part somehow gets… skipped.

Instead, what do we hear?

Submission.
Silence.
Stay in your place.

Somehow, Christianity has been painted as a faith that stands against women. Especially when it comes to marriage. Especially when it comes to that word—submission.

As if the Bible’s whole message is:
“Woman, shrink.”

But… I beg to differ.

Stay with me. I’m going somewhere.

Because when you really look at Scripture not through culture, not through control, but through the heart of God you start to see something different.

Something softer.
Something stronger.
Something intentional.

You start to see that God… is a girl dad.

Yes. A girl dad.
And I’m not taking it back.

Because when God decided to step into humanity, literally God in flesh, the One we call the Son of God, He didn’t bypass women.

He chose one.

A woman carried Him.
A woman nurtured Him.
A woman brought God into the world.

Tell me that’s not intentional.

And when Jesus died… and rose again…
the first witnesses of the resurrection weren’t kings, not disciples trying to prove a point, not powerful men.

It was women.

If I remember correctly Mary Magdalene, and the other Marys. Women who society didn’t always center… but God did.

He trusted them with the greatest news in history.

But let’s keep going.

Because this wasn’t a one-time thing.

There was Lydia a wealthy woman, a businesswoman, who didn’t just “support quietly.” She hosted the gospel. She made space for it. She funded it. She understood what she carried and poured it back into the Kingdom.

Deborah?
Oh, Deborah wasn’t just sitting pretty with a title.

She was a judge. A leader. And yes, a fearless warrior.

Esther?
Esther didn’t just wear a crown for decoration.

She saved a nation.

Hundreds. Thousands. A whole generation… because one woman said yes in the place God positioned her.

So don’t tell me the Bible sidelines women.

Time and time again, it shows us that God entrusts women with weight.

Responsibility. Influence. Impact.

God loves His daughters.

God is a girl dad.

Now let’s talk about that phrase people love to quote “weaker vessel.”

Because that one has been misunderstood for generations.

“Weaker” does not mean lesser.

It means precious.
It means handle with care.

Let me bring it home.

My daughter, Phoebe she’s my “weaker vessel.”
Not because she’s irrelevant. Not because she’s small.

But because she’s precious to me.

I’m careful with her.
Not everyone gets access to her.
Not everyone gets to speak into her life.

Why?

Because she matters.

So when God calls women the “weaker vessel,” He’s not diminishing you.

He’s protecting you.

That’s girl dad energy.

And if you still think Jesus didn’t go out of His way for women… let’s talk about it.

The woman at the well.

Jesus chose that route.
He could’ve gone another way but He didn’t.

He waited for her.

A woman with a complicated past. A story people whispered about. A life people judged.

And yes, He told her the truth.

“You’ve had multiple husbands.”

But He didn’t condemn her.
He didn’t shame her.
He didn’t dismiss her.

He revealed Himself to her.

He gave her living water.

And suddenly, the woman everyone overlooked became the one telling a whole city about Jesus.

Now let’s talk about the woman with the issue of blood.

Twelve years.

Twelve years of bleeding.
Twelve years of isolation.
Twelve years of being labeled “unclean.”

As a mother, I think about what the few months of bleeding during my pregnancy and what it did to my body… my mind… my confidence.

Now imagine twelve years.

She touches Jesus and she’s healed.

And what does she try to do?

Hide.

Because when you’ve been rejected long enough, even healing feels unfamiliar.

But Jesus stops everything.

“Who touched me?”

Not because He didn’t know but because she needed to be seen.

And when she finally reveals herself… trembling… probably expecting correction…

He calls her daughter.

Daughter.

Not outcast.
Not dirty.
Not forgotten.

Daughter.

That’s not just healing, that’s restoration.

That’s identity.

That’s a Father saying, “You belong to Me.”

So I’ll say it again:

God is a girl dad.

He sees you.
You—the woman.
You—the mother.
You—the one who feels overlooked, underestimated, or misunderstood.

He does not see you as less.

And if we go all the way back to the beginning, to Genesis when God said,
“Let us make a helper suitable…”

He didn’t mean “make someone beneath.”

He meant make someone equal in strength, different in design, but aligned in purpose.

Someone who can stand beside, not behind.

Because in the beginning, there was no oppression.

There was harmony.

It wasn’t until the fall that distortion entered.

But distortion was never the design.

So no… the Bible does not diminish women.

People might. Culture might. Misinterpretation might.

But God?

Never.

Because a God who entrusts women with life, with resurrection news, with leadership, with nations…

Is not a God who sees them as small.

He’s a Father.

A proud one.

A protective one.

A present one.

God is a girl dad.

And if you ever forget your worth…
just remember…

He trusted a woman to carry Him into the world.

He is rooting for His girl now

xoxo,

Ife