Diary of a Thriving Mum

I’ve been asked questions like, “Is it a sin to feel angry, disappointed, or just plain frustrated when it seems like God isn’t attending to a situation?” And my answer? A big, resounding NO!

We serve a God who understands our emotions—because He gave them to us! In fact, dare I say, He feels too? Since we’re made in His image, our feelings are valid. Just take a look at the Bible—Genesis tells us that God was grieved and full of regret about creating mankind. And in Numbers, Moses had a full-on vent session with God about how impossible the Israelites were. (“Why have You done this to me, Lord? These people are stressing me out!”) Did God condemn him for expressing his frustration? Nope. So why do we modern-day Christians act like it’s a sin to acknowledge our emotions?

Truth is, we’ve let culture and social media creep into our faith. We’ve started performing for the world instead of being real with God. Acting like we have it all together when, in reality, we’re holding back tears and about two seconds from a meltdown. And listen, I’m not pointing fingers—I’ve done it too!

When I first felt the nudge to start publishing my writing, I was terrified. Like, stomach-in-knots, can’t-eat-because-I-might-throw-up kind of anxious. I kept thinking, What if people judge me? What if they see my biggest, darkest secrets out in the open? I even wondered if maybe I had misheard God or if I was committing some crime and was about to be exposed.

But here’s the thing—emotions are meant to be felt, processed, and expressed. What they shouldn’t do is paralyze you from stepping into your God-given purpose. Negative emotions aren’t a place to stay stuck.

One of my favorite scriptures is “Be strong and of good courage”—God told this to Joshua as he was about to lead the Israelites into the Promised Land. Notice, He didn’t say, “Don’t be scared.” He said, Be courageous despite your fear.Translation? Do it scared.

Feel small like David facing Goliath? Pick up those stones and step onto the battlefield.
Feeling lonely because you don’t have a partner or family? Shift your focus to the freedom you have to explore the world without the limits of family obligations.
Think that promotion is out of your league? Step up, pitch yourself, and see what happens—you might just surprise yourself.

The point is, you’ll never know what’s possible unless you push through your emotions and act.

Emotions aren’t the enemy. In fact, they can be powerful fuel when channeled correctly. Ever heard the phrase, “Nothing burns hotter than a scorned woman”? It’s because emotions—when harnessed—can drive you to transform your world.

So no, it’s not a sin to feel. God created you with emotions for a reason. But don’t let them control you—control them and use them for something powerful.

Love always,
Ife