Diary of a Thriving Mum

Can You Fall in Love Again?

Ah, the question that flutters into conversations like a curious bird. “Do you think you can fall in love again?” It’s one I’ve been asked, and one I’ve whispered to myself on quiet nights.

See, my ex wasn’t just anyone. He was my childhood best friend. Loving him felt like second nature or reaching for the last fry in the basket without hesitation. So now, the thought of loving someone new feels… complicated. It’s been almost two years since I last saw him, but honestly? It feels like another lifetime. (A lifetime where I probably had a better sleep schedule and fewer existential crises.)

Loving me First

But let’s talk about love—specifically, self-love. This year, I’ve decided to take center stage in my own heart. For once, I’m focusing on me. Loving myself feels like an adventure I should’ve embarked on ages ago, but hey, better late than never, right?

Picture this: solo dates where I’m shamelessly ordering dessert and appetizers. Long, indulgent baths where the water practically begs me to get out because, girl, you’re pruning. Spa days, shopping sprees, and—get this—I’ve even started pecking myself on the hand. Yes, I am my own Prince Charming, thank you very much!

As my love for God deepens, something beautiful is happening. I’m starting to see myself through His eyes. I’m learning to appreciate the quirks, the resilience, and the boundless potential He’s placed within me. It’s like putting on glasses for the first time and realizing, “Oh wow, so this is what clear vision looks like.”

So, will I fall in love again? Absolutely. But for now, I’m focused on loving myself fully. I want to become the best, most vibrant version of me, so that when the right person comes along, I’ll be ready—not perfect, but whole enough to love them with the same depth I’m learning to love myself.

And you know what? That feels just right.

What about you, have you fallen in love or do you think you can?