Diary of a Thriving Mum

Dear Single Mum,

As a Christian, my faith has always been my anchor—the steady foundation of my life, guiding my decisions and giving me hope when I needed it most. But when my marriage ended after just a year—and with a newborn in my arms—I felt completely shattered. Lost. Confused. How did I end up here? What had I done to deserve this? Was God punishing me for mistakes I couldn’t even remember? Or was this just some cruel dream I couldn’t wake up from?

Even though I knew, deep down, that the marriage had drained every ounce of joy from my soul, I couldn’t let go. I clung to it like a lifeline, too scared to face the unknown. Then one day, my ex let go for both of us. That moment crushed me. I wept until it felt like my chest would collapse under the weight of my grief. The pain was so raw, so consuming, that I could barely breathe.

As a pastor’s daughter, I felt the added pressure of what others might think. What would they say about me? How would they look at me now? The perfect life they imagined for me had crumbled into pieces, and I was terrified of being judged—not just as a woman, but as a mother, a daughter, and a believer.

The mental and emotional battles were relentless. Then one day, my brother handed me a book: Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage by Kenneth Hagin. That book was like a lifeline in the storm. As I turned the pages, God began to heal parts of me I thought were beyond repair. I realized that His heart for me wasn’t to endure manipulation, verbal abuse, or emotional torment. No, His plan was for me to have a home filled with joy, love, and peace—a reflection of His perfect love for us.

That realization was life-changing. God wasn’t angry with me, nor was He punishing me. He was calling me out of the darkness and into His light, whispering, “You are My beloved daughter, and I have more for you.”

Maybe you’re reading this, and you’re in that dark place I once was. Maybe you’re grappling with decisions that feel impossible to make. I won’t tell you what to do—your journey is uniquely yours—but here’s what I will say:

Pray about it. Take your time to seek clarity in God’s presence. Block out the noise of what others might say because, truthfully, people will always have opinions. But their opinions don’t define you, and they don’t see the full picture.

Surround yourself with people who uplift you and remind you of your worth. If you don’t have that support right now, know this: I am here for you. Send me an email, leave a comment—I’d love to connect and walk alongside you.

Above all, remember this: You are not alone. God loves you so deeply, and His plans for you are good. There’s hope, even in the hardest seasons. You will rise again, stronger than ever, because His strength is made perfect in our weakness.

You are loved. You are cherished. And you are never, ever alone.